There are two fundamental ideas which are important in helping to determine how to make a. choice,
represents the new. The first it comes from the old: the other known as "the conventional pattern the second is the remantle marriage concept." The two are often in con-Alet 'The conventional pattern is what is known by some as the "mother pat: torn." The sample for' this type corns from the home. Writings from the Chou dynasty show how early this idea was erystalized into a det nite standard for the pattern wife in China Wives should serve their parentein-law as they served their own. the morning at the frst crowing of the "cock, they should. wash thelt hands and rinse their mout Under this {dea, the proper wite was woman of the house, Modern men. sometimes laugh and say thie Is not the kind of wife they want, Yet, do most men not seek-a women who is able in the household aris? Most modern girls, even though they seek careers, still recognize that the work a home is also theirs.
The second idea is the romantic basis of marriage, This is a new Idea coming from the west, It represents the opposite of the "mother type, and is often spoken of as the "comrade type." It has as its basis the idea of "falling in love," of "meeting one's hero," and it presupposes that "Yor every person there is an ideal mate somewhere whom one will rec agnize on sight when meeting."
Novels! Vielous Half Truth, This vicious half truth is promoted by the movies, and by new novels which are coming out like white ants in spring (and are worth much). One has only to go to middle schoo! or college students room and see the pictures of movie stars pasted on the walls to observe the outward effects of mimicing romantic ideas portrayed in the. films, both western and Chinese, Pictures of movie stars clothed in smart tight Alting gowns, waved hair out long ubout the shoulders: and crimson Anger nails determine young girls ideas of fashion, and are the type which smart young men often seek for company.
The romantic impulse {s given further prestige because returned sttdents oftentimes accept the outward forms of freedom in relationship between sexes. They play at sports together, they dance, they attend movies and eat in restaurants togeth= unchaperoned. They are inuential in determining the attitudes of others, and often what is natural play is construed by others to have a "romantic implication." Often the training of these leaders regarding marriage matters nas lagged far behind their professional technical training in their specialized field of work. The following case will strate the point Mr. Chen studied ye years in 'America in engineering, returning 10 China "to" a "government fob. He Siished to find a wife who would help him socially. His friands introduced their sisters and their sisters" relends to. him. He was not' satiated. "He had special requirements: he aid not Wish to Rave her tall (for he Was hart); she must be attractive appearance: she Faust speak a foreign guage, preferably English; she ust enjoy social life; and he must "eased "him for being so particular and said that Perhaps he "was searching for 3 Garbo-Butteray Wu combination.
'One day Bs. Chen himacit for int whom he liked. He met he 2 Sunday afternoon in one of Shan has" popula: halls" where young society! people go to dance." He followed "up the acquaintance, and after 2. few months their' marriage Sas made. ur Chen's friends warn= fed him that the gid came from a oer family Who. were "known eclat climbers." He paid no atten-don saying thai this Wasa modern Gay_and that he was martying, the Gaughter, not, her "amoily:
"That was ten months ago. Now chen thinks his friends were partially Fight. Me finds that in the new home (Continued on page 322)
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