Some Will Agree and Others Not Perhaps the first few years of a child' 's life are. the' great est of all tests for its mother. It is not only that she has to learn an entirely new way of looking at things? it is not only that the physical health of her child d pends on her skill and knowledge and her cleverness in managing the myriad duties that throng round her so that none is neglected. It is not only that, for the sake of the child's nerves, and of his futai re feeling of security with her, she must discipline herself to an almost Spartan self-control.
Good breeding, the sort of good breeding that shows itself in perfect social poise, is perhaps needed more in the nursery than anywhere else, with imita little eyes and ears taking later. The child who has had what is called a "sheltered life" is a pitiable object wher he has to face reality later. I know many such to-day—they began with a hovering mother and nurse to order every in everything that happens every} moment of th days; they perhaps minute. But perhaps most import had a governess, and then went to ant of all is the mother's task in school where the healthy rough and drawing that delicate line between tumble of life was barred from them possessiveness and apparent indifferby parental interference. Pas ence which she must draw if her on to the university they found child is to be happy On its earliest: that their parents, "who couldn't trai a child's whole future life bear to see them suffer," rescued will depend—as the s: ug is bent, them from all their scrapes; they the great tree of maturity will gro\ found themselves unpopular, as un~ First of all, there is thi courageous people always will bey of being too possessive, It is is and instead of learning from their teasy, isn't it?
Motherhood during unpopularity, retired into a shell of the early years one's children is.
vocation, and it swallows one up. must stand by and not One is so much inclined to tench, to interfere with her child's troubles impose one's ideas on children, for~ too much once she has shown him getting that their world will be very the way to avoid them; she must different from our world, and that let him learn that most of them are four rules of thumb will not serve brought on by himself and not by for them.
Yet—one must guide the spite of others, and the time if one may not teach. A to begin this attitude is the first mother cannot actually teach her week of his child to walk—t instinct mast Allied to the problem of helping come from inside him, ith her him to clear thinking is the neoes-helping finger to save from sity, of being utterly honest with painful falls.
In just the same way him: Even in the tiniest thing, she mast not provide him with ideas, think, should white honesty. be but, by teaching from his baby shown to a child. "Mummy, will days how to think, lead him to form you come and read to me?" he will his own ideas.
T have found that ask, and you don't like to say, "Noy one of the most difficult parts of dear, I want to read to myself this, motherhood was teaching my child-afternoon, I don't want you or any ren how to think; so much careless, body mo just now." So you haphazard, lopsided thin! about invent some excuse—a job to doy child so easily catches the 8 visitor to entertain. The mother infection. But the child himself, who trusts her child and who has with his constan: "Why, Mummie?" his trust would have told the blank is hungry to be taught honest rea- truth and know that he would not soning, and if the mother is a clear be hurt, that he woul thinker herself she will not have the valuable lesson that his ple very great difficult I found very es mustn't interfere with those. of soon that the loti of my babies was others. "Mummy, can't T have a 'a challenge to my own rather slack pony?" he may avk, and you say, thinking, and I know that intellect "Oh no, dear, there inst room for vally I re advanced years since one" instead of saying, "We can't T had to challenge my own thoughts afard it"—when he knows there is for their sakes. the old stable there which would give plenty of room! Tt ig in thes fine wisdom of the perfect nows that even while she tiny ways that he learns dishonesty, unconsciously absorbing it as a protects her baby she must be code. I have found, too, that dis-strengthening him, even while she soothes is little hurts she must be honesty about sex and all its prob-Jems hag had a curiously rotting teaching him that courage which effect on children, making them sly, time make him bear his troubles alone.
T believe one of the cowardly and nervy; I don't thine that explanations of sex should be most difficult things T have ever forced upon children, but I have found do, as a mother, not found with mine that at the azo of that one knows will cause them interfering when children do things gout four or five they begin to be One simply has to stand by watch them getting hurt, otherwise they will never learn to manage their own lives; one says to a child "You had better not do that, dear. So-and-so will be the result," and he goes away dissatisfied, not quite believing you.
He keeps coming back to the subject like a fly to honey, and at last one says," "Well, have your own way, You will neve be satisfied until: you have." Tt sounds Spartan and cold-blooded, but the little things against which you warn him in the nursery foreshadow the great things that will ome to him when he leaves home entirely, and if by bitter experience he has learnt both to listen to advice and to be cautious when he is young, he is unlikely to meet with disaster curious about the physical differ. ences between boys and girls, and Thave answered them with complete honesty. They have loads of faults, but they are certainly fearless, and Thave never known one of them tell me a lie, I think the whole duty of the mother during the first few years of her child's life, before he' has to face the thousand influences of scheat and friendship, is to control hersel€ almost harshly—not to show hee Jove too much, not to be afraid of letting her baby learn from experi lence, and not te allow herself any slack or cowardly habits of thou Tt is so easy to. be an emotional mother, but how very hard to be an intelligent one!—1FoNORA EYLES, "Woman's Journal." up and included in the crown of the hat. Many people, even the m enlightened, still have a good deal of hair, and some of them even venture to have fairly large heads. In England the method seems to be to forego waving and to screw the hair up very tightly either on the nape of the neck or round the ears so that it 2an be squeezed into the hat. This is successful at present because those who are doing it are still very young. Later on it might Took a little hard. Another device of the long-haired is to have. it thinned ao that it can be compressed into the little space allotted to it. Thus the best is made both of the long and short world.
Older people will, however, have to look to it that they do not remain stuck in a particular fashion. Years. fage a woman kept more or less to the coiffure she adopted when she was married. Thus bandeau indicated that a woman was young in a certain year, while the high fringe showed that she was young rather less Jong ago. To-day, when hair is less periodic, it behoves women to dacite whether they will date themselves or not. It seems probable that with longer hair, hats Lvill once more accommodate themselves to the head, and if skirts.are even a little longer the tophenvy effect of hat, hair, and head will be avoided. Also, are older women prepared to be bald? Long hair made baldness in women almost of taste., With short hair comes within the realm of, sibilities, At all events it is fon good authority that any under twenty-five can have long hale '—in which no doubt lies a moral.
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